---Others must be nice, kind, and considerate to me. If they are not, it is my right to blame and condemn them.
---I must be liked by everybody.
---I must be loved and accepted.
---People must approve what I do. If they do not, it is because (they are bad or I am rotten).
---I must excel at everything that I do.
---I must get what I want quickly and easily.
---I must not get frustrated.
---I must not get anything of what I do not want.
-Exaggerating by magnifying the significance of what happened. The negative event is turned into a catastrophe; examples,
---This is the worst day of my life.
---It is terrible, horrible, and awful that things do not go my way.
---If I do not get that video game, I will just die.
Teachers can identify students’ exaggerations when we hear in their sentences words like always (e.g., "I am always messing up") or never ("I will never learn this stuff"); everyone ("Everyone hates me!") or nobody ("Nobody likes me").
-Distorting and filtering the event; for example, "Drake is only saying that I should expand my essay’s summary because he is jealous of me," or "I had a bad grade because Mr. Evans hates me."
-Externalizing by believing that external circumstances (environment or other people) are the cause of our anger and unhappiness. Examples would be,
---Theresa made me angry.
---They are so unfair to me.
---Everyone is against me.
---Mr. Evans always blames me.
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